Okay, I need some opinions....

[arib]

A person who, almost two years ago, informed me that she no longer wanted to have anything to do with me has suddenly popped up on my IM buddy list for the first time since that conversation.

Do I:

a) suck it up and strike up a conversation?

b) realize that I'm still hurt and pissed off and do nothing?

c) none of the above?

Right now I'm leaning towards b.

Comments

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

The Pollyanna part of me wants to encourage you to see if/how she's changed in two years. The part of me that is protective of my friends, and resonates to hurt, doesn't want you to give her another chance to put a scar on your soul.

And, it seems to my cynical side, that sometimes cost-benefit analyses are sensible. How much chance is there that this person will be worth the renewed extension of trust? Does she deserve another chance? Do you need her friendship, with what you have in the rest of your life?

*hug* Good luck. You aren't required to let people chew you up repeatedly in the name of being a good person.

With hugs,
A.