Okay, I need some opinions....

[arib]

A person who, almost two years ago, informed me that she no longer wanted to have anything to do with me has suddenly popped up on my IM buddy list for the first time since that conversation.

Do I:

a) suck it up and strike up a conversation?

b) realize that I'm still hurt and pissed off and do nothing?

c) none of the above?

Right now I'm leaning towards b.

Comments

[greyman.livejournal.com]

Personally, I'd have a freezingly polite conversation about generalities (how's your job, etc.) and then end with a "Let's Do Lunch" sort of thing (the kind of phrase that's obviously a polite blowoff). The advantage of this approach is that it shows that you are "over" her and she doesn't still exert any power over you.

The disadvantage is that she may not catch the polite blowoff part. I've had this happen, with someone who eventually had to be physically ejected from my wedding reception. So, unless you are at all interested in her life, ignore her completely. I *wouldn't* reply with a hurt "I thought you never wanted to speak with me again" since that seems to have no advantages at all.