Interesting moment last night.

[arib]

reporteraliza and I were out at dinner last night at the local kosher deli.
While we were there, I overheard two couples talking a few tables over, and I heard one of the men mention that it's been 40 years since he's seen the other.

On one hand, it must be nice to be able to pick up with an old friend so much later on in life, and still be able to connect. On the other hand? If you've got someone who you'd be friends with four decades later, why lose touch in the first place?

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[rosefox]

Sometimes it's just hard to stay in touch: people move away, get busy, change addresses. Remember that we haven't always had email *) and email addresses change too. If a high school friend wanted to reach me, they'd have a hard time, since I've changed physical locations, virtual locations, and my name.

Forty years ago it was 1967. I imagine it was a pretty easy time to lose track of someone.

You also never know who's going to turn out to be a good friend down the line. Maybe those two guys were lovers and had a terrible messy breakup forty years ago, and they're just now finding out that they can be friends after all. *)



This post just inspired me to track down my best friend from 8th grade. I've Googled for her before with no success. This time her full name turned up a brand-new account on Meetup.com, with no photo but a bio that says she's a New Yorker and completing a Master's, which would make her about the right age. It's not that common a name. Here's hoping...

[saigon-ch.livejournal.com]

Life gets in the way of life. I've lost touch with friends because I get caught up in the every day so easily. Plus, sometimes you hit a time in your life where you have to sever ties with a dear friend so you can both grow as individuals. I severed ties with a man that was my best friend for years in 2004. Stopped talking completely. No reason other than, we needed to see that we could manage our own lives by ourselves..we were able to and have recently began to reconnect. And Im sure if we don't speak for 10-20 years...it would still be a friendship that is easily rekindled.

Friends don't have to be constants to remain in your heart. My friend that I just mentioned has always been my closest friend. Regardless if we talk every day or once a year...or never. It is a deeper connection than that.

[(Anonymous)]

I've just started emailing for the past 10 months with my best friend from grade school after lots of years without any contact at all.

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